Taking Care of Parents

Click the image to read a copy of SB 2819

Sen. Panfilo Lacson

Recently, Senator Panfilo Lacson files Senate Bill 2819, an act that would mandate children to look after their parents in their old age. The bill explains that in spite the fact that Filipinos have closely-knit families, and the regulations in the Family Code that children need to take care of their parents are in effect, still many abandon their parents in their old age. The bill aims to:

This proposed bill therefore seeks to further strengthen filial responsibility

and makes it a criminal offense in case of flagrant violation thereof.

Abandonment of a parent in need of support shall likewise constitute a criminal

act. A parent who is in need of support may file a petition for support before the

court and pray for the issuance of a support order against those children who

failed or refused to provide the necessary support. The legal representation of

the parent in need of support will be provided by the Public Attorney's Office and

no court fees will be asses. This bill also seeks to establish Old Age Home for the

elderly, sick or otherwise incapacitated parents in every province and highly

urbanized cities. (excerpt from the explanatory note of Senate Bill 2819)

Personally, I support the intention of the bill.

I have joined a thread in the Adgitize forum a few days ago regarding the topic “Taking Care of Parents”. The thread actually, is about an inconsiderate mother-in-law that expects too much from a son who has a family already. The daughter-in-law sighs, “When is enough, enough?!”

I can feel the frustration in spite of the fact that I am still single. I have become interested with the thread because I remember my aging mom. She has been sickly now that she is almost 80 years old. She is definitely not perfect but she has always been a good mom and never require us (her 2 children and 1 daughter-in-law) to provide for her needs because she has her own pension although she accepts when we voluntarily give her something and asks for help in case of emergencies but she is very appreciative.

I believe good children do not need a legal enforcement to take care of their parents and likewise good parents would not require their children to take care of them in their old age to the extent of filing for a court order. The problem with this bill is that inconsiderate parents might take advantage of the this legal provision to force their children to give them money.

It is easy to take the responsibility of taking care of your parents who have loved you so dearly since infancy but what if the parents have neglected and have abandoned you in your tender age then now that you have become successful, they will file for support.

I am blessed with a great set of parents. My Dad has gone up to heaven already but My Mom is still here with me. I hope I would be able to take care of her in the best way I can.

In countries like the US, senior citizens have comfortable pension houses where they can stay. In countries like the Philippines, pension houses for the elderly remain a dream. In this area, I hope Senate Bill 2819 could address this problem once it becomes a law.

Sen Panfilo Lacson's image courtesy of: wikipedia

Pearl Brooch for Mom’s Day

Mothers’ Day has been a special event for our family especially when Dad is still around. We never miss the occasion without giving a gift to Mom. It does not always have to be something expensive but it is always something special.

I remember before, My Dad and I would buy mom a purse. Sometimes, a perfume or cologne because she loves perfumes especially “White Linen” although we could not buy one regularly because it is expensive here in the Philippines. Sometimes, we buy roses for her but there would always be ice cream and cake.

In the past Mothers’ Days (except for last year), I have given Mom pearl accessories (not the super expensive types). I have given her a set of pearl earrings and necklace. I want to give her a pearl ring but I can only give her a pearl brooch this year.

She adores it when I have given it to her. I have surprised her. I don’t have a picture of the brooch but I have seen something almost similar to it. I am showing it here with a proper link to show readers how the brooch looks.

I hope I can give Mom a pearl ring soon.   

Image above courtesy of:

http://www.gd-wholesale.com/wholesale-dir/a23c/e3513f/brooch-s-9.html